Abundant female body. Signs of an orgasm

1. Rhythmic contraction of the muscles of the vagina, uterus and even the abdominals (who has it) with an interval of 0.8 seconds.

In simulation, it is difficult to achieve such speed and rhythm.

2. Energetic body movements so that the contact of the erogenous zone with the stimulus is the closest. Until the end of orgasm, the woman will not break this contact.

3. The skin on the face and chest turns red. There is an erection of the nipples.

Even an experienced woman cannot imitate this.

4. There is an involuntary grimace on the face, the eyes are closed.

Orgasm is one of the forms of impaired consciousness, and a person is not able to control his actions and his facial expressions in this state.

5. The sexual organs of an excited woman are moistened with lubrication, and after an orgasm, a small amount of fluid may leak from the vagina.

But if a woman's genitals are dry, as before intercourse, then no matter how she moaned, she did not experience orgasm.

6. After an orgasm, a woman slowly comes to her senses. And even finished tidies will not immediately run to take a shower, and will not start a conversation on the topic of whitewashing the ceiling.

I'm very thirsty.

7. Increased blood pressure and increased heart rate.

The last sign, but it is unlikely that a man will at such a moment check his partner's pulse and measure pressure.

Two basic rules for faking an orgasm

1. It's better to undershoot than overshoot. You should not play if you have never experienced an orgasm and do not know how violently you can react to this sensation.

2. Don't fake an orgasm too soon, otherwise you and your partner will lose the chance to achieve true ecstasy in the future. In addition, your premature ending may have a negative impact on his subsequent diligence and diligence.

Can every woman experience an orgasm?

Physiologically, yes. Theoretically, no, since even in textbooks on sexology, 95% is the maximum bar that every man should strive to take. As for the practical state of affairs, for obvious reasons, no one can give an exact figure here, but according to various studies, from 40 to 70% of women are able to experience an orgasm.

What does a woman feel during an orgasm?

It is believed that women experience more vivid and varied sensations during orgasm than men. So, for example, during one large-scale sociological study, American doctors received more than 600 different “experiences” with which women described their orgasm.

Someone feels the growing heat in the genitals, which then spreads throughout the body. Someone defines an orgasm as involuntary contractions of the vaginal muscles (it always happens, but not everyone feels it). And someone like a wave of convulsive contractions that runs throughout the body from the top of the head to the heels. In general, the sensations are very diverse. Moreover, in the same woman, they can change both over time and depending on the conditions.

How to determine if a woman has an orgasm?

Orgasm is a qualitatively new state that differs from the usual strong excitement. Therefore, it is easiest to catch the onset of orgasm precisely by changing the behavior of a particular woman, and not by capturing generally accepted symptoms from her.

Indirect signs of the onset of orgasm are: rapid breathing (or, conversely, its short-term delay), convulsive movements (or, conversely, fading), contraction of the muscles of the vagina (which is quite easy to determine by inserting a finger there), a variety of sound accompaniment (or, conversely, convulsive clenching of the jaws and biting of various foreign objects), etc. Sometimes the manifestations of orgasm are so weak that it is almost impossible to determine them by eye.

Is it possible to distinguish a true orgasm from an imaginary one?

Based on the same features of female physiology, it is possible to distinguish a true orgasm from a false one using rather bulky and expensive equipment. As for the usual conditions, there is not a single reliable sign, the absence of which, or, conversely, the presence would allow a man to determine the truth of the female orgasm absolutely accurately.

Yes, there are a number of manifestations accompanying orgasm that a woman is not able to fake. For example, wrinkled skin around the nipples, redness of the upper chest, contraction of the vaginal muscles. But even their absence cannot be conclusive proof of your partner's true feelings.

Does the duration of sexual intercourse affect the strength of orgasm?

Yes. Sexologists identify such a pattern - the longer the "plateau" phase lasts (sexual intercourse is divided into four phases - arousal, "plateau", orgasm, refraction), the brighter the orgasm.

Does arousal affect the strength of an orgasm?

Yes. The brighter the experience of a woman in the first phase, the stronger the sensations she will experience during orgasm.

How long does a female orgasm last?

On average, the same as for men: 4-6 seconds. However, options are possible. In addition to the usual (peak-shaped), orgasm can be protracted (from several tens of seconds to several minutes) and undulating (for a long time).

Does a woman control herself during an orgasm?

Women tend to experience orgasm more violently than men. They may cry, scream, swear, bite, and even pass out. And all this is absolutely normal. Electrophysiological studies (EEG) of the brains of women during orgasm revealed changes similar to those observed during an epileptic seizure. Therefore, many women are really not able to control their behavior during orgasm.

Moreover, by holding back her emotions, a woman is not able to get a full orgasm. And constant restraint can lead to the development of various neuroses and false frigidity.

Is it possible to stop an incipient orgasm?

Sexologists distinguish two periods in the third phase: the first is the approach of orgasm, the second is the orgasm itself. At the same time, in the first period, if necessary, the process can still be "turned back", in the second - no.

How is a multiple orgasm different from a repeated one?

Unlike men, women can experience multiple orgasms. It differs from the repeated one in that between the first and subsequent orgasm, the woman is always in the second phase of the “plateau”, without leaving it.

With a repeated orgasm, even if it occurs after a short period of time, everything starts again - first arousal, then a short "plateau" and only then an orgasm.

Are all women capable of multiple orgasms?

No. The tendency to multiple orgasm is innate and occurs in about 30% of women.

What orgasm is real?

Not only men, but also many women believe that only the vaginal orgasm is a real orgasm, and everything else is just a surrogate. This is not true. From the point of view of physiology, any orgasm is real if it leads to an appropriate release.

How long does it take for a woman to reach orgasm?

This indicator is very individual, but on average 15-30 minutes. That is, a woman needs several times more time to achieve orgasm than a man. If you look at the male and female graphs of sexual arousal during intercourse, their difference immediately catches your eye.

A man first has a short first phase (excitation), then a slightly longer “plateau” phase, an orgasm (4-10 seconds) and a short refractory period (4-10 minutes).

In women, the schedule is more extended in time than in men: the first phase is flatter and longer, the second is longer, the third (orgasm itself) may include several peaks of the curve, and the fourth is also longer.

Is it possible for both partners to have an orgasm at the same time?

Yes. This happens if the man, having reached the top first, does not strive to move further, but helps his partner to catch up with him. And it does so for as long as it takes. At the same time, the man himself, using various methods, keeps himself at the level of the “plateau” all the time.

A man cannot fake an orgasm

This is not true.

PhD from the Institute for the Study of Human Sexuality, a research institute and college in San Francisco, Ted McLivenn: “Almost every man has faked an orgasm at least once. When a group of experts at the institute asked a sample of 2,000 men whether they had ever faked an orgasm, almost 100% responded positively. It happens that a man drinks too much alcohol or quarrels with his partner. Lack of sexual arousal. As a result, the man just wants to somehow end this business.

If, however, one or another partner feigns orgasm regularly, serious relationship problems may arise. Faking an orgasm is a form of deception, experts say, and it can lead to lies in other areas of a married life and ultimately undermine it.

First, let's look at history. The word "orgasm" has been in the language for a long time. Its origin goes back to Ancient Greece. In a literal translation, the word "orgasm" means "swell with moisture, burning with passion." From the point of view of physiology, it sounds less poetic: the culmination of sexual intercourse, the highest peak of pleasure.

Experts distinguish between several types of orgasm. Although, of course, it should be understood that this division is very conditional. And yet.

The simplest is the genital orgasm. He is also the most common. It is clear that based on the anatomy (genitals - genitals), this type of orgasm manifests itself locally and occurs as a result of contraction with a certain frequency of muscles in the pelvic region.

The genital orgasm is short in time, but it is felt quite sharply. If we understand the anatomical nuances in more detail, then we should distinguish 3 varieties of genital orgasm: clitoral, vaginal and uterine, which, of course, can take place as separate phenomena, or follow each other or even occur almost simultaneously.

A rather rare occurrence is a chest orgasm. And it almost never occurs spontaneously. It is achieved after special exercises that can be learned. As a rule, a chest orgasm occurs against the background of a genital one.

And the most desirable - orgasm of the whole body. Actually, this should be considered the highest satisfaction, a true orgasm, the very highest peak on which all women strive to be at least once (and ideally, regularly).

This orgasm is long, steady and incredibly strong. His plume even the next day responds with a pleasant languor throughout the body. And sometimes, even three days later, echoes of such an orgasm are felt.

Women describe orgasms differently. Pleasant warmth spreading through the body. Acute pleasure - sweet, sometimes, to the point of unbearability. An irresistible desire to throw out the emotion outside - into the breath, into the rumbling, into the groaning of the body. One thing is similar in all these descriptions - it is too difficult to find words to express their feelings. But that's the mystery of the true orgasm, that he, unfortunately or fortunately, can not be expressed in words.

But those specific actions with which women often try to simulate an orgasm are manifestations of sexual pleasure (or worse, they are a mask for the absence of it): moans, screams, imaginary convulsions, confused rapid breathing. Passionate requests are of the same kind: "Yes, yes! Don't stop! Oh, how good!", which in English sounds like: "Yes, yes! Once more! Oh, good!"

So spectacularly play the orgasm of the actress in pornographic and erotic films. And, having apparently seen enough of such scenes on the screen, many women mistakenly take them for a manifestation of a true orgasm - so they imitate in real life what they saw pseudo-passion, deftly played sexual madness. But, alas, too exaggerated, beautifully built, intelligibly filed "orgasmic" behavior, much better, testifies in favor of the simulation.

A true orgasm is determined by only 5 objective signs. And they already, according to experts, it is impossible to simulate.

1. RHYTHMIC PULSE

We are talking about contractions of many muscle groups: the vagina, uterus, pelvic floor, anus, abdominals. Moreover, these are, as a rule, muscle contractions spontaneous, but rhythmic, literally with second intervals like a pulsation.

The contractions of the abdominal muscles are clearly visible, and the man feels the contractions of the muscles of the vagina with his own penis, which makes him more excited. Such intensity of contractions cannot be done consciously, it happens on the verge of instinct - just like we pull our hand away from contact with something hot or when we get an electric shock.

2. TRANSLATIONAL BODY MOVEMENTS

Experiencing an orgasm, a woman involuntarily performs quite vigorous body movements to make closer contact of her erogenous zones with a male irritant. The purpose of such actions is not to allow pauses, not to slow down, to achieve swiftness and an increase in passion until the desired climax occurs.

At these moments, a woman is no longer interested in caresses, kisses, or words of love. She will not allow a man to be distracted by all these tendernesses. In anticipation of the explosion, all female nature is concentrated only on physiology.

3. FLUSHES AND ERECTIONS

A true orgasm is always accompanied by a rush of blood to the skin. The forehead, cheeks, chest area turn red. The woman feels hot. Perspiration appears on the body. In the minutes of orgasm, a woman has an erection of her nipples, clitoris, and labia. Even a very experienced lover is unlikely to be able to imitate such a state.

4. VAGINAL DISCHARGE

The excitation of a woman during orgasm reaches such an extent that vaginal discharge is excessive, beyond the physiological need. Moisturizing lubrication and vaginal secretion, sometimes, so much that the abundance of fluid begins to "sound" during intercourse, and immediately after the completion of sexual intercourse, it may even be outside.

5. INVOLVED GRIMACE

All talk about a blissful smile, an unearthly angelic enlightened expression on the face during orgasm is nonsense! Or the prerogative of beautiful cinema. Bliss comes later, and at the moment of orgasm - it is impossible. Because bliss is given to the face consciously, purposefully.

Whereas during an orgasm, a woman is not able to control her facial expressions. The face of a woman experiencing an orgasm (the same, by the way, applies to men) is distorted by an unsympathetic grimace.

This is a kind of instinctive additional effort of the muscles of the face, helping to sink deeper into orgasm and surrender entirely to the highest physiological (actually, animal) pleasure. Well, of course, and not without involving the entire psycho-emotional nature of feeling, which is characteristic exclusively of the human body.

After a true orgasm, many women are in a state of mild prostration, as if they lose their sense of time and reality. Relaxation of the body in this case occurs gradually. As if leaving, moving away, a wave. Or the fire goes out, fading very slowly, but no, no, yes, flashing with separate flames.

Psychiatrists jokingly say that a true orgasm is one of the forms of impaired consciousness. But in every joke, as you know, there is some truth. If you watched V. Menshov's film "The Envy of the Gods", then, of course, you remember the sex scene in the truck, in the finale of which the heroine of Vera Alentova, shocked by what she experienced for the first time, asks in bewilderment: "What ... was it ... was it? .." And this and had an orgasm.

Most sexologists now distinguish several forms of the female orgasm. According to the localization of orgasm: four physiological forms - clitoral, vaginal, uterine(orgasm of the cervix, or cervical), perineal and several pathological oral, rectal(anal) nipple.

Orgasm- a complex psychophysiological process, the foundations of which lie in the corresponding processes in the brain. Excitation of specific pleasure zones of the brain leads to an objective manifestation of orgasm. The inclusion of these zones occurs under the influence of impulses coming from the female genital organs.

The motor activity of the woman's body and its individual parts resembles convulsions. In some cases, the body tenses and stretches, possibly raising the pelvis and arching the body like an arc (with support on the back of the head and heels), the arms are tense and stretched out, the jaws are clenched, the eyes are tightly closed. In other cases, the body bends, wriggles, beats, makes throwing movements, arms and legs scatter, make sharp chaotic movements, the head spins in different directions. All this is accompanied by sound phenomena (screams, screams, sobs, groans, creaking of teeth, as well as sounds muffled by volitional effort or spasm of the speech muscles, groans, sighs, etc.).

Sometimes separate words and incoherent phrases break out. There is a spasm, i.e., a rather sharp contraction of the muscles of the vagina, uterus, perineum and other muscles of the small pelvis. Usually, a young woman who has not given birth with well-developed muscles has 2-3 strong spasms and several weak ones that gradually fade. In women with weaker muscles, older in age, who gave birth, only one strong spasm and 1-2 weak ones are possible. All of these spasms can be felt by a man's penis.

The increase in discharge into the vagina is sometimes so sharp that the penis loses the feeling of the walls of the vagina, as if "floating" in it. In rare cases, a large amount of fluid even pours out.

During true orgasm, a woman's breast nipples swell and harden (nipple erection).

The totality of all signs is an external, objective picture of the physiological orgasm of women. The subjective inner picture can be described based on their stories. Many women note a feeling of intense heat in the lower abdomen, in the genitals and in the depths of the vagina, a kind of heat wave in these areas, a sensation of a blow in the depths of the small pelvis or painfully sweet spasm, squeezing inside, in the depths of the genitals.

Everything described concerns a relatively simple type of female orgasm, namely the physiological orgasm. Such an orgasm is more or less regularly observed in three-quarters of women who are sexually active. The most common is the so-called clitoral type of orgasm.

How important is the so-called "anatomical correspondence" of the genitals of a man and a woman for a woman to get an orgasm?

The size of the genital organs in sexology and in society has always been given great importance. In reality, however, the situation is much more prosaic. First of all, for a fully valuable sexual life in all respects, a particularly large penis is not required.

As you know, four types of orgasm are possible in women, and with three of them (clitoral, vaginal and perineal), the size of the penis does not matter. With the fourth type of orgasm - cervical (uterine) - a certain length of the penis is necessary, but even then it is very moderate, since the cervix of the uterus in most women is relatively shallow.

There is no relationship between the overall dimensions of the body, in particular the height and size of the penis, in a man and the volume of the vagina in a woman. Anatomical discrepancy can occur only with a roughly pronounced pathology of the vagina (underdevelopment of it, cicatricial narrowing after injuries, burns). In other cases, the genitals of a man and a woman represent a functional system in which the vagina can be significantly stretched with a large penis and, conversely, shrinking tightly around a small penis.

What is a clitoral orgasm?

It used to be that this type of orgasm was reserved for very young women, and as they get older, the orgasm moves into the vagina. However, it is not. A clitoral orgasm can be characteristic of any woman, regardless of her age, physique, etc.

Clitoral stimulation is required to produce a clitoral orgasm. Women who have a clitoral orgasm can hardly get it in the usual, most common position in Europe. At the same time, the clitoris remains outside the field of irritation during frictions.

During normal intercourse, the necessary irritation of the clitoris is achieved by its contact with the back of the penis, for which it is necessary to enter the penis at a certain angle (from top to bottom). This is possible with a normal distance of the clitoris from the entrance to the vagina (about 2.5 cm). If the clitoris is located higher, then the penis does not reach it. In this case, it is necessary either to change the position of sexual intercourse, or to apply titillation (small monotonous irritating movements) of the clitoris with a finger, both in the preparatory period and during intercourse.

The head of the clitoris is rich in blood vessels and nerve endings, so irritation with his hand should be very light, gentle. Sometimes it is helpful to lubricate your fingers with petroleum jelly or moisten your finger by inserting it into the vagina beforehand. With excessive sensitivity of the head of the clitoris, irritating effects with a finger can be transferred higher, to the body or tail. These parts of the clitoris are deeper, and therefore a more dramatic impact is acceptable.

Women with a clitoral type of orgasm are not suitable for intercourse from behind. The following position is more acceptable: after the beginning of coitus in the classical position, move the legs, then the penis irritates the clitoris with each friction. In this case, the husband and wife can change places - the husband is below, and the wife is above. An objective sign of a clitoral orgasm is a significant increase in the size of the clitoris (erection), an increase in its temperature.

How does a vaginal orgasm occur?

The second type of female orgasm is vaginal. In this case, the lower third of the anterior wall of the vagina serves as an erogenous field, which requires a special technique of sexual intercourse, which consists in closely pressing the glans penis against the anterior wall of the vagina during frictions.

In addition, special “small” frictions are also practiced, i.e., shallow, capturing only the lower part of the vagina. In this case, the impact on the lower third of the anterior wall of the vagina is enhanced ("Spanish" sexual intercourse). There are also cases of combined orgasm, that is, clitoral-vaginal. In the preliminary period of caresses in women, it is effective to irritate the clitoris and the anterior wall of the vagina with the hand at the same time, and during intercourse - the simultaneous impact on both erogenous zones with the penis or hand.

For any form of orgasm, the maximum overflow of the cavernous bodies with blood is necessary, and the lower part of the vagina is precisely covered by muscles closely associated with the cavernous bodies. By contracting these muscles, a woman not only enhances the filling of her own cavernous bodies - squeezing the base of a man's penis during intercourse, but also impedes the outflow of blood from his cavernous bodies, sharply increasing her husband's erection and creating additional pleasant sensations for him.

Unfortunately, the work of these most important muscles for orgasm is not always complete. On the one hand, in some women they are weak, and on the other hand, there are women who do not know how to use them properly. The task of a sexologist in both cases is to teach a woman how to use these muscles.

The power of any striated muscle increases with exercise, so we give some frigid women homework - special sexological gymnastics: daily repeatedly squeeze the main muscle - the vaginal constrictor, and if a woman does not know how to do this, we advise you to retract the anus.

The lower third of the vagina and the muscles of the perineum play an important role in the formation of an orgasm. These muscle parts, when tensed, form the orgasmic cuff. Objectively, the vaginal orgasm is expressed in 5-12 contractions of this cuff with an interval of 0.8 seconds. After orgasm, the cuff and the walls of the vagina quickly relax. With a vaginal form of orgasm, a woman can get sexual satisfaction in any position.

What is the peculiarity of the uterine orgasm?

During this type of orgasm, uterine contractions begin at the bottom of the uterus and move to the body and lower segment. The strength of uterine contractions is equal to the strength of orgasm. This orgasm is characterized by the so-called "suction effect", in which the cervix seems to stick to the upper part of the vagina. Then the uterus returns to its original position.

With the uterine form of orgasm, a woman needs irritation of the cervix with the penis. The penis may not reach the cervix if it is short, or vice versa if the vagina is too large. In these cases, it is necessary that sexual intercourse takes place in a position where the woman lies on her back and pulls her legs to her stomach, which significantly shortens the vagina. It is also possible that the man lies on his back, and the woman squats on top.

With various types of deviations, the cervix is ​​\u200b\u200bnot located in the posterior fornix, but "looks" forward. In order to "put the uterus in place", you can again change the position, apply gynecological massage and knee-elbow breathing exercises. In this case, it is also better to recommend sexual intercourse in a position where the woman lies on her stomach or on her side. In this position, the penis does not fall into the posterior fornix, but into the anterior one, as in the knee-elbow position of a woman.

With excessive obesity of a woman, coitus is possible only in the back position on the side with the legs strongly bent at the hip joints or in the knee-elbow position of the woman. The same position is almost the only one possible with excessive obesity in men.

The technique of sexual intercourse with this type of orgasm is that the man produces deep frictions, rhythmically affecting the cervix and posterior fornix. And in this case, strong blows to the neck should be avoided.

What is a perineal orgasm? The fourth type of orgasm is perineal. It occurs much less frequently. The corresponding nerve impulses come from the perineum when it comes into a state of vibration. Women with this type of orgasm sometimes experience it while riding a horse, cycling or motorcycle. The technique of sexual intercourse in this case consists in the impact of the head of the penis on the back wall of the vagina in its lower segment.

How do you feel about imitation of orgasm by women?

The widespread phenomenon of imitation is especially often observed in women instead of the orgastic period. A woman imitates an orgasm with the means available to her, thereby solving some socio-psychological problems. She wants to prove her sexual usefulness to her partner (if she tends to regard herself as a "cold" woman). She wants to convince her partner that he is a complete man, if this is important to her. She wants to prevent his aggression (reproaches, reprimands) if she thinks that the partner will blame her for not engaging in sexual intercourse. She wants to prevent a reaction of self-blame and despair from a partner in the event that she assumes that such a reaction will interfere with their further relationship. In short, the imitation of orgasm is a complex and responsible action of a woman, to which she attaches great importance. However, this widespread female action is misguided.

Most of the listed problems and tasks facing a woman can be solved in a different, “open”, but tactful way, namely, a joint friendly search for shortcomings in technology and psychological communication, a friendly construction of a true orgasm that connects both partners. As already mentioned, only that part of the manifestations of orgasm is available for imitation, which is amenable to arbitrary or conscious regulation.

Is it possible to achieve simultaneous orgasm of a man and a woman?

For sexual harmony, it is desirable that the orgasm of a man and a woman coincide in time, and if she has an orgastic series, the coincidence of a man's orgasm with the last orgasm of a woman is desirable. A perfect match is not always necessary. If the woman is already in the pre-orgasmic period, then the man after ejaculation should not remove the penis from the vagina for a few more seconds without making frictions, and the woman will automatically have an orgasm after the pre-orgasmic period. If simply waiting is still not enough for a woman to have an orgasm, a man can immediately stimulate a woman after ejaculation in some other way, for example, with his hand, etc.

What is a psycho-emotional orgasm?

Psycho-emotional orgasm is much less common in both men and women. In fact, this is a complex psycho-physiological experience that unfolds on the basis of a simpler, elementary, physiological orgasm. The probability of the onset of a psycho-emotional orgasm depends on the emotional make-up of a person, his general culture, the ability to express emotional experiences in general: delight, ecstatic states. We can say that the frequency and quality of psycho-emotional orgasm have a significant social conditionality of the general way of life of people. In the era of sentimentalism or romanticism, psycho-emotional orgasm was probably more common.

The emergence of a psycho-emotional orgasm in both a man and a woman depends on the type of attitude of a man to the image of a woman in general, on his assessment of this image, the value of a woman in life. At a time when a woman is an object of worship for a man, an ideal of beauty, moral perfection, such a complex of emotions arises that contributes to the onset of a psycho-emotional orgasm in both partners. It has long been noticed that the emotional state of a man during intercourse contributes to both the excitation of a woman and her inhibition, depending on the nature of these emotions.

Psycho-emotional orgasm can be psychologically interpreted as a significant narrowing of the field of consciousness of both partners. Against this background, an emotional upsurge occurs in the form of an ecstatic state with the appearance of brightly colored fantasies and even with impaired perception (feeling of flight, weightlessness, any changes in one's body, etc.). The leading emotion at this time is the experience of happiness, joy, liberation. At the same time, the content of emotional experiences in men and women is different. So, a man has a “motive of mastery”, up to “devouring a woman”.

A man, as it were, completely merges with a woman, taking her into the depths of his soul. This is also consistent with the most common words in this situation that a man utters, for example: “I will eat you without a trace”, “you are mine”, etc. a man, dissolves in him. This state corresponds to such words as “take all of me”, “I am yours”, “do with me what you want”, etc. The emotion of bestowal is manifested not only in words, but also in gestures, as if belittling, giving oneself man.

How many orgasms can a woman experience in one sexual intercourse?

Approximately 20% of women have a need during the same sexual intercourse to have not one, but three or four orgasms in a row. This means that for them the concept of satisfaction and saturation are different. Each orgasm brings satisfaction, but only their combination leads to saturation, that is, to the disappearance of a further need for orgasm. This phenomenon is called the orgastic series. It is absolutely normal. This must be emphasized, because some men, and sometimes women, consider it a manifestation of some kind of disease, and men, in addition, a manifestation of the woman's licentiousness or depravity. Of course, the husband or long-term partner of a woman should be aware of her orgastic series and, taking this into account, build his sexual relationship with her.

What happens to a woman's body after intercourse? Sexual arousal of a woman and after full saturation decreases gradually. In this regard, she painfully reacts to the sexual indifference of a man, which occurs after the end of sexual intercourse.

There are a lot of complaints that men quickly move on to everyday prosaic conversations or fall asleep. In fact, these complaints express the woman's need for the so-called post-coital caresses, that is, for the caresses of a man after intercourse. These caresses should not be of an exciting nature, therefore they do not boil down to irritation of erogenous zones, but, on the contrary, consist in influencing the non-erogenous parts of a woman's body.

The psychological content of these caresses is an expression of gratitude, tenderness, emotional looseness. At the same time, a woman in the period of postcoital caresses expresses gratitude to the man and appreciates him as a sexual partner. Indeed, every man during and after intercourse has a hidden need to receive a tactful assessment of his actions from a woman.

It contributes to his self-affirmation, but at the same time, he becomes especially vulnerable to reproaches and generally disapproving statements. That is why, when we recommend a woman to carry out with a man the necessary adjustment of his actions in the preparatory period and during the period of sexual intercourse, we always emphasize that this should be done at a different time, but by no means immediately after intercourse. During this period, the assessment of a woman should be, of course, positive in any case. It must be remembered that this is not only the final assessment of this proximity, but also an incentive for the future. A man will always want to justify a woman's assessment in the future, especially if she was slightly higher than the objective assessment.

This is an extremely responsible psychological moment, and, of course, it is difficult to describe how a woman should do this. For example, one woman said briefly: "It was a fairy tale", another did not say anything, but raised her thumb, and the third whispered: "I forgot the whole world except you." Although, according to the conditions of life, partners, including husband and wife, sometimes have to get up after this and do household activities, the psychologically most perfect state of partners after the described period is sleep. A woman should fall asleep before a man, resting in his arms, and not vice versa (except for a woman of the “mother woman” type).

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Women have become adept at faking an orgasm. Yes, so cleverly that you can not distinguish a simulation from a genuine orgasm. And we men do not need simulations, we need to get a real assessment of our sexual efforts. Only in this way we will know whether we are doing everything right, or we need to try better. There are physiological signs of a true female orgasm that will tell if a woman enjoyed or faked an orgasm.

Plateau - a harbinger of orgasm

The female orgasm is necessarily preceded by a special state - a plateau. What is Plateau - this is the period of maximum sexual arousal of a woman. Orgasm occurs only after the woman has reached a plateau.

By external manifestations, a plateau can be confused with an orgasm. A woman screams, writhes, wriggles during frictions. And after reaching the plateau, it subsides. But this is the calm before the storm. She slowly continues frictions. Then it gradually accelerates. Starts screaming again. And then, in joyful convulsions, she experiences a real orgasm.

Contraction of the muscles of the vagina

At the moment of orgasm, the vagina grips the penis especially tightly. The grip can be felt. And the man, accordingly, it gives special pleasure. If in the midst of a female orgasm you feel more pleasant sensations inside the "pussy" - it means that she ends for real. In some cases, during an orgasm, the vagina can even push out a member or, conversely, suck deeper. Do not be afraid. These are normal manifestations of a genuine orgasm.

In a slender woman, orgasmic contractions can be felt simply by placing a hand on her stomach. Sometimes these contractions are so strong that they sweep through the woman’s body in a wave, resembling convulsions. The same convulsions that simulants like to imitate. But if there were no convulsions inside the vagina, then all other convulsions are in doubt.

female ejaculation

In some women, orgasm is also accompanied by the release of large amounts of fluid from the vagina. Do not confuse it with the intimate lubricant released during sex. And this is not the partner's sperm flowing out. The vagina, indeed, is able to release some liquid during orgasm. By analogy with the male orgasm, this fluid is called ejaculate. After an orgasm, a woman has a "lake" between her legs. The more female ejaculate, the stronger was the orgasm.

The moment of ejaculate release can be felt. The man has a feeling that the partner peed on him during sex. This is especially noticeable in the "rider" position, when a woman sits on top with her legs apart and nothing prevents the ejaculate from flowing onto her partner.

Erection of the nipples

An orgasmic spasm inside a woman's body may not manifest itself outside at all. The absence of screams and convulsions does not mean the absence of orgasm. And female nipples can be used to diagnose orgasm. If the orgasm was genuine, then the internal spasm will reach the chest and make the nipples stand erect.

However, it is tempting to stick out the tips of the breasts can simply from strong excitement, and even from the cold. Therefore, erection of the nipples can be considered a secondary sign of orgasm.

cold lips

Another secondary sign of orgasm, or rather, a sign of the absence of orgasm, can be the cold lips of a woman during the final kisses. This refers to the lips on the face ;-) Kiss the woman. And if in response she kisses, as it were, reluctantly tense cool lips - a formal kiss - then, perhaps, she did not experience an orgasm. And if the lips are soft, warm and supple, then, most likely, there was an orgasm.

Calmness and relaxation after sex

A genuine orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure, at which a huge amount of “pleasure hormones” endorphins enters the bloodstream. Scientists have measured that endorphins released during orgasm are 200 times stronger than morphine. Yes, sex is like a drug.

However, we will not conduct a chemical analysis of female blood to determine the content of endorphins in it. But you can easily see in what mood a woman is after sex, or in the morning.

Sexual pleasure is one thing, but orgasm is quite another. The first relates more to emotions, and the second is a physiological phenomenon. True orgasm has objective signs. Experts say that it is impossible to simulate them.

How to recognize

1. Rhythmic pulsation- contraction of several muscle groups: uterus, vagina, anus, pelvic floor, abdominals. As a rule, these are spontaneous contractions, but rhythmic, like a pulsation with second intervals. The contractions of the abdominal muscles are clearly visible, the man feels the contractions of the muscles of the vagina with the penis, which makes him even more excited. Contractions are made unconsciously, at the level of instinct.
2. Progressive movements. A woman involuntarily makes energetic body movements so that the contact of the erogenous zones with the male penis is closer. The purpose of such movements is to avoid pauses, to keep the pace, to achieve an increase in passion until the onset of a climax. At the same time, a woman is not interested in caresses, kisses and words of love. She will not let a man be distracted by all this.
3. Hot flashes and erections. Forehead, cheeks, breasts turn red, a woman feels hot, perspiration appears, an erection of the clitoris, labia, nipples occurs. Even an experienced lover will not be able to imitate these signs.
4. Vaginal discharge. Excitation reaches such a degree that these secretions are strong, more than physiological necessity. Sometimes an abundance of fluid is the cause of extraneous sounds during intercourse, and after it is over, it can pour out.
5. Facial expression. All stories about a blissful smile during orgasm are a myth. At this point, bliss is impossible, as the woman is unable to control her facial expressions. A woman's face is usually distorted by an unsympathetic grimace. The same applies to men. This is an instinctive effort of the muscles of the face, which helps to strengthen the orgasm and completely surrender to it.

After an orgasm, a feeling of thirst arises, a woman comes to her senses for a long time.

One of the signs is an increase in blood pressure and an increase in heart rate.

Kinds

Experts distinguish several types of orgasm. The simplest - genital, it is also the most common. This type occurs due to muscle contraction in the pelvic region. The genital orgasm does not last long, but it is felt acutely. Based on the anatomical features, it can be clitoral, vaginal and uterine. These can be separate phenomena or they follow each other or even occur simultaneously.

A rare occurrence is a chest orgasm. It almost never occurs spontaneously. Special exercises are needed. As a rule, it occurs against the background of the genital.

The most true - orgasm of the whole body. That should be considered the highest satisfaction. It is long, stable and very strong. Even the next day, a pleasant languor is felt throughout the body.

All about orgasm

To fake an orgasm, you need to know two basic rules:

• do not play if you do not know what an orgasm is and how it feels,
• don't fake it too soon, otherwise you and your partner will lose the opportunity to achieve real ecstasy. In addition, your premature ending may adversely affect his subsequent diligence and diligence.

Every woman in terms of physiology can experience an orgasm. Theoretically, no. It is believed that the sensations of women during this state are more vivid and varied than those of men. When conducting research, doctors received six hundred experiences, absolutely similar to each other, with which women described their feelings. Some feel heat in the genitals, which spreads throughout the body. Others define an orgasm as contractions of the vaginal muscles, which are always there, but not everyone feels them. Feelings are varied. In the same woman, they can be different depending on the conditions.

Orgasm is a state that differs from the usual strong excitement. It is easiest to catch it by the behavior of a particular woman. Indirect signs are: rapid breathing or its short-term delay, convulsive movements or fading, contraction of the muscles of the vagina, different sound accompaniment or biting of foreign objects. Sometimes these manifestations are so weak that it is almost impossible to determine them by eye.

Based on the peculiarities of physiology, a true orgasm can be distinguished from a false one only with the help of expensive equipment. Under normal conditions, there is not a single exact sign, the absence or presence of which indicates the truth of sensations. A number of concomitant manifestations a woman cannot fake. For example, redness of the upper chest, wrinkled skin around the nipples, contraction of the vaginal muscles. But even the absence of these signs cannot be proof of a woman's true feelings.

Orgasm is affected by the duration of sexual intercourse. Sexologists say that the longer the plateau phase, the brighter the sensations. In addition, the strength of excitation also matters.

The duration of a female orgasm is similar to that of a male, from four to six seconds. But options are also possible. It can be long, up to several minutes, and undulating, lasting for a long time. As a rule, women experience this moment very violently. They may scream, cry, swear, and even pass out. All this is absolutely normal. Studies of the brains of women during this condition have revealed changes similar to those seen in an epileptic seizure. For this reason, many women cannot control their behavior during orgasm. Moreover, by holding back emotions, a woman cannot get full sensations, and if this happens all the time, the result may be the development of various neuroses and false frigidity.

Sexual intercourse is divided into four phases: arousal, plateau, orgasm, refraction. Sexologists distinguish two periods in the third phase: the first is the approach, the second is the orgasm itself. If necessary, the process can be stopped in the first period, but not in the second.

Women, unlike men, are able to experience multiple orgasms, that is, a woman remains in the second phase of the plateau all the time. With the second, everything starts anew - from excitement to orgasm. Multiple orgasm is an innate ability and occurs in about thirty percent of women.

Many believe that a real orgasm can only be vaginal. This is not true. From a physiological point of view, any orgasm is true if it leads to an appropriate discharge.

It takes about fifteen to thirty minutes to reach a climax. At the same time, a woman needs more time for this than a man. The latter first have a short first phase, then a longer plateau phase, an orgasm of up to ten seconds and a short refractory period of up to ten minutes. In women, the first and second phases are longer, the third may include several peaks, and the fourth is also longer than in men.

The simultaneous orgasm of both partners is possible if the man, having reached the top, lingers there, helping the woman to catch up with him. That is, with the help of various techniques, it keeps itself at the level of a plateau.